Hip Hong Kong | How to Snare a Millionare!

Dear Anita,

I'd like to share with your 'Single in the City' readers an experience I had recently.As a personal action, life and career coach, I make it my business to go see other coaches and leadership gurus when they come to town. So, I couldn’t resist booking a seat when Lisa Johnson Mandell, author of ‘How to Snare a Millionare’, was slotted to hold a seminar on meeting the wealthy man of your dreams.

The event took place at the swanky MO Bar at the Mandarin Landmark Hotel and there was free flowing pink Moet to boot! I admit with the title of the event How to Snare a Millionaire I was thinking “G-G-G-Gold-diggers!”….But Lisa told us right off the bat that it was our right as women to want to be with successful men. The craving apparently goes back to caveman times when men hunted and protected us. In today’s times that translates into – MOOLAH! A Gold-digger, is a “take the money and run” kind of girl….hmmm…know any of those here in Hong Kong?

Lisa Johnson Mandell is a modern day diva that has been proposed to over 50 – yes I said 50 – times. I couldn’t help myself during the seminar and found myself exclaiming “WHAT???” out loud, followed by “how many had rings????. She told us one poor soul proposed to her 16 – yes I said 16 – times. By the way – those were all NOs!

Lisa Johnson Mandell and Mo Bar manager Alex

So, after we became convinced of her credentials, she went on to share with us some great tips about what men like, where to meet them and how to call them across a bar with your eyes with her famous “Oh baby, Oh baby, you are the hottest thing I have ever seen and we need each other bad” look. (I wish I knew that one previously, because I met my boyfriend by marching right up to him and knocking over about three other girls in the process!) So this look, which you can apparently use on anyone, will get you all kinds of things like free desserts from your waiter. The key thing here is- the words are silent. It’s all done with the eyes. Make sure to practice on someone before you try it for real!

Seeing as I had met my boyfriend in Hong Kong and had a great time dating before that, she asked me to get up and speak about my experience! Eek! Many of the women in the audience said they found it very hard to meet decent men in Hong Kong, however my feeling about cities like New York, for example, versus Hong Kong is that every man here is pre-qualified! Most men here voluntarily left their home towns looking for a bigger opportunity abroad- hence most are ambitious, educated, professional, well-traveled, have a broader world view, and possess a great sense of adventure. In my eyes, Hong Kong men are superior due to these qualities.

The ladies at the event ranged in age from their 30’s to 50’s. Some were local and some were expats. All were looking for tips on how to meet the elusive man in Hong Kong. Here are some useful tips I gleaned from the seminar:

· Wear flirty colors and skirts. Men are looking for the Yin to their Yang according to Lisa. She made me feel so good that I have spent a fortune on my shoe collection as well. Power heels – as she refers to them – are a must.

· Act interested in their achievements – NOT their money. Listen, listen, listen. (I’m yawning. I am such a talker this millionare better be REALLLLY interesting.) Don’t talk about their money. Don’t ever mention money. And under no circumstance are you supposed to spend your own money. (Unfortunately, I got the other memo – the ‘modern women pay’ memo…darn!)

· Don’t ask for gifts ladies! Don’t tell him your friend has the newest LV and you need it. It isn’t cool. She advised that people refer to her book for tips on getting guys to give you gifts. I was so shocked at this, I didn’t even take notes.

· Don’t roam in packs, go out alone or with a friend who likes different kinds of guys. If you both like buff blonde Aussies don’t go prowling together.

· Don’t go to the same spots all the time either. If you go to (I love you Wagyu ) every Friday, you probably are going to see the same guys there. Try somewhere new. Lisa recommended golf, sailing, cigar bars (Captain’s bar anyone?), charity events, horse races, casinos, and believe it or not the prepared food section of upscale supermarkets!

· NEVER – can I say that again NEVER go for MARRIED men – Lisa puts them off-limits

· NO SEX until you are in a COMMITTED MANOGOMOUS relationship. Ok. No one was going to ask – so since I am already IN a CMR I did…. “What CAN you do? “ It got a little X rated and I almost got persecuted – but we are talking ‘No Sex of any kind’ people. Nada – Nothing. Nothing going nowhere. Ok – so you can get frisky in the back of the taxi but then he is going home. This is part of that un-gettable get thing. If you give it, there is nothing to get. They want to chase. Apparently it’s the same reason why we are never supposed to pay or split a check. Men, according to Lisa, want to have to “work” for it.

She gave us other ideas like looking for men on the internet and in other cities, and the whopping – how you get proposed to in 6 months. I am going to have to put that one to the test. Let’s just say it includes a great day, making him feel amazing and loved, followed by a big BUT with a sentence including OTHER OPTIONS. It is too good for me to give the secret away! I may have to use it!

I was most inspired by the fact that even though Lisa wrote about snaring millionaires, and was proposed to 50 times, she waited until she met the love of her life at 46 to settle down and get married. So she didn’t just marry ANY millionaire. She married THE RIGHT millionaire. So the lessons learned were: have self-confidence, be friendly and approachable. Change up your environment every now and then so you can meet new people. If you respect yourself and know what you deserve as a woman then there’s no reason any of us should settle for less than the best.

Thanks Lisa! Come back and show us some of that “Oh baby, Oh baby in action next time!”…..

How to Snare a Millionaire by Lisa Johnson Mandell

http://www.amazon.com/How-Snare-Millionaire/dp/0312965176/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1244454088&sr=8-1

Perri Gorman
Founder of Metamorphosis Coaching

www.be-thebutterfly.com

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