2 Kinds of Wankers in Asia

Submitted by Redpole Q of pickupasia.com

I remember when I first came to Asia, I heard all the stories about being mobbed by women from guys who were even less cool than I was. Just thinking about instant stud-dom made my mouth water and sent me off to sleep every night with the sweet smile of the viking at the helm of his ship surveying the coastline thinking of the booty lying just beyond the shore.

And then I landed...

I soon realized after hitting the dive bars that I didn't know were dive bars that the reality and the myth were quite different. For the first 3 weeks, I went out every night and I went home alone. I couldn't even get a date.

The worst part about it was that I was going out with a friend of mine and he was having success—sometimes with girls that I met first! It was infuriating actually. Especially considering that I had delusions of being the pimp of the world.

Then it happened. I got a girl!

After my first 3 weeks of frustration, I finally started at the University where I was studying. On my first day, my advisor gave me a tour of the campus and the facilities. We were in the computer lab and he was showing me how to log in and telling me all about the features of their latest upgrades when a girl sitting nearby turns her head and looks at me.

I immediately heard a chorus of angels descending telling me I've reached the promised land.

“Are you new here?” she asked me. From there she did ALL the work.

And that's where a lot of the problems in relationships begin. You see, there are two types of guys. Those guys who can't get women at all(or so rarely it's a total crap shoot), and those guys that can get women(and lots of them) but continuously lament about not getting the quality of woman they're looking for—and before you ask, most men fall into the first category.

There's a common (mis)perception that girls like jerks. And what is a jerk? A guy who doesn't hesitate and perhaps even enjoys ignoring societal conventions and other people's feelings in the pursuit of what he wants.

A “nice” guy on the other hand will consider others' feelings and will try to to get what he wants while navigating societal norms without offending anyone. Frequently, this means he will compromise on what he wants or give up on it altogether. It means that behind all the niceties he maybe secretly disgruntled much like the Michael Douglas in the movie, Falling Down, who suddenly snaps.

Luckily instead of going on a violent shooting spree, most of these men release the pressure in small doses, much like “Nearly a Lesbian” experienced on the ferry from Macau to Hong Kong. These “wankers” are frustrated guys who used you for an outlet, because I can guarantee you that if he was truly living in a world where, “girls like cock more than guys like pussy," he wouldn't be drunkenly talking about it.

And I know it's hard ladies, but recognize that in another place at another time, he's probably the nicest of guys with a decent enough job who just can't seem to cut a break when it comes to the ladies.

A category 2 wanker on the other hand has a whole different set of problems. This is the guy that women often end up wondering, “Why didn't he call?”

Simple: “He's just not that into you,” and you're just another gal that didn't make the cut. This is the guy that wishes women would be more of a challenge or that women didn't just like him because of his resume. The reality is that there are lots of men with great resumes who have given up on the challenge of women altogether.

Both wanker type-1 and type-2, whether or not you sympathize with either, are seriously frustrated.

For you guys, there are resources out there—skills and tools that can get you the kind of women and relationships you want. I, an ex-type-1 wanker learned them, and so can you. Hell, a 25 year old virgin who'd never even been on a date in his life and had only 3 fingers on each hand and 2 toes on each foot learned these skills and tools and changes his life within 3-months.

So, if you have 10 fingers and 10 toes then you have no excuses.

And as for you ladies:
I remember and episode of Sex and the City where Carrie meets a really nice, cute guy. They go on a date, they have sex and the next morning he leaves her in his bed while he goes off to play soccer. The kicker is that he comes back early to be with her only to find that she's gone through all of his stuff looking to find what's wrong with this great guy. Carrie, gets the boot and loses the guy.

Moral of the story is that to maximize your chances of keeping that great guy when you do find him is, “Don't do anything stupid.”

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